Women Who Act Like Men and the Men Who Despise Them
|Photo by Steve Snodgrass|
I was in the barber shop recently and I heard a few barbers saying "I don't know why women want to act like men!" in response to women defending themselves against hurtful things men say and do to women. "Why do women want to act like men?" that's the best way to explain a woman's right to defend her integrity or to stand up for herself when she's hurt by something someone has said or done to her? WOW! This wasn't the first time I've heard men ask that question but I just wonder why do some men think that self defense is equal to gender stereotypes? I thought we were living in a post Flintstones era. My bad.
Not all men think this way, or use these phrases, but I just think it's interesting how differently women who are assertive are viewed in our society. Take for example, a female supervisor; how many times have you heard a female boss described as "cold" or "strange" because she sets boundaries with her employees, or chooses not to get involved in office gossip or doesn't allow employees to abuse the paid time off system. But a man can be just as assertive and he's awarded, literally, he's given awards, for being an inspirational boss and an outstanding leader. It's totally insane! And I've had enough of it!
I'm here now, today, to say, listen up! A woman does not have to be nice to the point of her own downfall, passive to the point of having footprints on her back and then aggressive enough when her employees feel like the system is taking advantage of them. A woman can be whomever she chooses to be, at any given moment, at any place in time. Just like a man. Why? Because that's the complexity of a woman, of men, of humankind. We are not robots, most of us at least, or only foot soldiers for the people we defend.
So, salute! all the women and men too who understand that and encourage their little girls to be that bold. And to the rest of the world, who doesn't get it, sorry for you. If you don't agree or have another point of view send me a response with a thoughtful rebuttal and we'll keep the conversation going. Just remember to read a few books on women's liberation, the history of humankind and the women and men leaders who have led this country to the day where we all see Barack Obama as President of the United States and Michelle Obama as a comparable wife and First Lady!
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